Problem of generation gap
The problem of generation gap is universal and everybody across the globe faces the unchangeable problem. But this problem is experienced intensely in countries like India or Gulf countries where the families live united. Although the families continue to live unite they may be in odd terms with each other. The unity that exists in a family system is a positive indication but it should not lead to negative consequences. The problem is experienced due to several reasons which should be properly analyzed.
Generation of our parents
Most of our parents were born during the phase of independence and post-independence. The period after independence was critical in India and many people faced economic crisis during this period. Our parents have personally viewed and experienced the pain of starvation and the hardships involved to earn daily bread. They have compromised most of their desires and strived to bring up their families that suffered from economic crises. They were mere listeners to their parents because they consumed a bread for a day only when their parents labored for long hours. After comprising for a long period they killed most of their burning desires and led an austere life. They began to develop interest towards religious activities and spirituality after they began longing for a settled and an economically stable life. Constant struggle in life led them towards interest in spiritual activities.
people of our generation
When we were born rapid changes in economy took place in our nation. When we were growing up, the radical policies of economic liberalization led to a lot of progress in the nation. The Indian markets began expanding and the riches of India were then discovered. We witnessed a lot of economical and cultural changes around us but they still remained only dreams. The rapid change in the economy but moreover affected the richer segment of the society. We also viewed the rich people in our nation often visiting the places of luxury such as clubs, pubs, restaurants and commuting through splendid bikes. But neither the people of our generation comprised much in terms of economy and education because our nation was rapidly progressing then. We moderately comprised towards our desires perhaps because our desires did not suit the traditions and culture of our religion.
Kids of this generation
The kids of the present generation are born when the technology is operated through the foot. Today our nation has made tremendous progress in the field of technology and science compared to the yesteryears. Due to the emergence of IT industries in India and the concept of outsourcing most of the parents earn high income and are able to spend lavishly for the kids. The children are customized to a comfortable life since their childhood and are unable to view the hardships of life. They do not understand the pain their grandparents underwent to earn a degree and daily bread. They know how to operate a laptop and a system by using key commands and innovative software but do not know the dedication involved in the developed of such necessary gadgets.
Reasons for generation gap
There are several problems that lead to this conflicting problem. The people of all the three mentioned generations have been brought up in an entire different way.
Due to the difference in bringing up, their mental framework differ from each other. Physciological and behavorial patterns are formed on the basis of circumstances one undergoes. When the people of the different generations meet each other they often are induced to difference in opinion, communication gap, conflicts etc.
Due to the difference in mental framework the likes and dislikes also differ from each other. In this way both the parties cannot live in peace with each other and they are unable to respect the likes and opinion of each other.
The frequency of thoughts flow from opposite directions in a parallel manner. When the thought process from the two parties is so different, then love cannot be expressed even if it exists between the two parties. Both of them are unable to find a proper channel to express their feelings also. in this way gap creates between the two relationships.
Effects of generation gap
The problem of generation gap creates negative consequences and the two parties already began to drift with each other emotionally.
Generation gap occurs between parents and children or between in-laws. It also occurs between teachers and students but the degree of gap is less because they do not spend much time with each other. This problem leads to communication gap and the two parties are unable to understand the channel for communication.
Due to emotional incompatibility arguments over silly matters and conflicts began to occur often frequently. The peace in the premises of the house is disturbed.
In the extreme cases the parties even decide to abandon each other. The children decide to leave the house of the parents due to lack of emotional space constantly. The daughter-in-law may provoke her husband to abandon her mother-in-law for disability to cope up unreasonable demands.
Ways to combat the problem
There are no technical solutions to resolve this knotty problem. If you want to resolve the problem and be at peace then both the parties must be willing to solve the problem. If the party is unable to accept the changes then the other party should comprise to a greater extent which may not be possible.
Realization and a high level of understanding is one of the optimal solutions to combat the problem.
Both the parties should often discuss openly about their childhood and the funny and sad incidents that took place during their childhood days. This activity not only creates bondage but also opens the doors for understanding. The two parties can understand the lifestyle of each other. Knowing the childhood of each other helps the parties understand the physiological patterns formed by each other also.
Both the parties should not develop a very high feeling about themselves. They should understand that they both have their limitations since they are human-beings. They should understand that they both depend upon each other at some point or the other.
They both should realize the peace that can be built by a means of co-operation. When both the parties are co-operative they can complete the tasks very peacefully. This problem commonly occurs between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law should realize that her daughter-in-law is customized to the atmosphere of education and profession and hence suddenly coping up the domestic activities is not an easy task for her. At the same time the daughter-in-law should also realize that her mother-in-law was not enough lucky to be educated by her parents and hence she cannot be professionally competent and understand the professional world.
Both the parties should realize the theory of limitations and both of them cannot be satisfied as per their wants. Nobody in the world is satisfied according to their wants because human wants are only unlimited. They should realize the easiness of expecting and difficulty of implementing. Especially in the initial stage when a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law meet each other they cannot live with peace with each other because both of them meet from the different worlds.
Everybody should develop the attribute of respecting each other. When one learns to respect each other peace can be established between the two parties. A mother-in-law should realize that the woman of today struggle with pain to earn bread for their family. The daughter-in-law at the same time should realize that her mother-in-law once underwent a lot of pain to bring up her family and she has once undergone many economic and social hardships.
To build a close relationship with each the two parties can enjoy with each other periodically such as going out for a cinema, restaurants, shopping and many other fun-filled activities. They can also organize to celebrate the birthday of each other .